I think we all know how easy it is to drift through our days, life just ticking along, not asking the big questions, suddenly you're a Belieber (aren't we all?! They say you don't choose Bieber, Bieber chooses you) and wondering how on earth you ended up where you are.
If you want to have real influence over your life, being conscious of it’s direction and your own happiness, you’ve gotta ask some big questions right?
I've thought about the ones I believe to be most important for us right now, and have compiled a list of some thought-provokers for us all.
Ready to dive in?
1/ Am I loving with all of my heart?
Ain’t nothing greater than love right? And this is in no way exclusive to the romantic kind. I’m talking everyone. Our families, our friends, people we are yet to meet.
How do you want to be loved? Wholeheartedly I’m going to assume? So let’s make sure we are putting what we want, out there too.
Ask yourself - Where am I holding back? Where has love not yet reached? Where can I love harder?
Hint: Close your eyes for a moment and let yourself embody that question. Where has love not yet reached? What comes up for you?
2/ What does success mean to ME?
Not to your best friend, not to your mother, what does it mean to you?
Getting clear on this means you can work towards that version of success (your version of success), and feel genuinely satisfied when you reach it. I don’t want you to reach your goal only to be disappointed when you realise you have been living someone else’s dream.
One of the five most common regrets of the dying is “I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me”.
Let’s make a deal not to ever have to utter those words, k?
3/ Who am I surrounding myself with?
They say you are a reflection of the 5 people you spend the most time with.
Bring those 5 to front of your mind. How does that feel? Choose inspiring, supportive, loving people to surround you and you can only be lifted higher by them. And as they say, if you are smartest in the room, you are in the wrong room.
4/ Am I progressing?
Tony Robbins says the the most important key to happiness is progress. (I’d add love in there too, but you know me.)
He says “Even if you are not where you want to be yet, if you are on the road, if you are improving, if you are making progress, you’re going to love it, you’re going to feel alive. On the other hand, it doesn't matter how successful you are, if you stop growing, you start dying inside”
Are you learning? Consider workshops, thought-provoking books, a new recipe, speaking events, a different type of yoga. It’s all progress.
5/ What is no longer serving me?
We are creatures of habit and tend to carry baggage around that is holding us back, sometimes for years. What behaviours or mindsets are stale, and need updating? Do you believe you are too old to start something new? That you will never find your dream guy, or gal?
Energy flows where attention goes baby! Let’s get to shifting up those mindsets and replacing them with ones that guide you in the direction you want to be moving.
6/ What am I grateful for right now?
Want more goodness in your life? More bright days and loving experiences? Did I hear a collective ‘hell yeeeaaa!!’?
The BEST and most powerful thing you can do is focus on what is already working well in your life. Focusing on the good stuff only invites more of it in.
Hint: Writing this down amplifies the whole experience. Keep a notebook next to your bed and jot down a few things you are grateful for each night.
Happy questioning, friends ♡
If this resonates with you, and you want to explore these questions further, then email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and we can talk more about my intimate 1:1 coaching programs.