I think it's safe to stay that most of us make decisions with our heads, our brains, our minds. Not necessarily with our hearts.
There is a time and a place for both, absolutely, and I’m not writing off using our minds. It’s just that we are such complex beings, with the ability to use our heads and our hearts in unison. Whhhaa you say? It doesn’t have to be one or the other, practical, or heart-led. We can find a happy medium between the two - the coming together of both sides of ourselves if you like.
Many of us have gone through life making decisions based on what we thought we ‘should’ do. Not being led by what lights us up, or makes our heart skip a beat - but the most sensible option.
It’s been drilled into us to ‘think about it’ and ‘collate the pro’s and cons of the situation’.
And my guess is, if you have been living your life based on what you think you should do, and perhaps even what others expect of you, you may be feeling a little unfulfilled. Dissatisfied and not exactly fired up or living out your dreams day by day. Sound familiar?
Our head rationalises; it uses facts, evidence and knowledge (all extremely helpful of course), while our hearts allow us to experience desire, love, longing, adventure. And that’s some seriously good stuff that we all want a whole lot of I’m sure.
So what does listening to our heads AND our hearts at the same time even mean? It means tapping into your internal wisdom, that space of ego-less, knowing truth, while still taking our experiences and knowledge into consideration.
Sound kinda overwhelming? Let me break it down.
Many of us have quietened that voice in our hearts, our intuition and our inner truth in favor of the most logical and rational answer. Our society tends to encourage facts and checklists, and suppresses our inner wisdom.
We are disconnected from using our bodies and our feelings to guide us.
This is where it becomes important to tap into your heart - and start listening to that inner wisdom, that side of you that wants you live your one wild and precious life in amazing ways. Not slog it out for the next 50 years.
I wanted to share an easy peasy way to start listening in, to start exploring that part of you that may have been dormant for a while now.
So let’s say you are grappling with whether to stay, or whether to go (or insert issue here!).
Maybe rather than making checklists and talking over the options with ALL of our friends. we can allow our own inner voice to guide us.
But how on earth?! I hear you say?
It’s as easy as carving out 5 or 10 minutes and sitting with yourself, no distractions. Spend the first few minutes focusing on your breath - noticing the inhale and the exhale.
Bring the attention to your heart and breathe nice and deep into that space.. Place your hands over your heart and start to notice your heartbeat.
Then ask yourself : How would it feel if I stayed? And notice the feelings in your body. Notice the response in your chest and in your breath.
Taking a few nice deep breaths between questions, keeping the attention focused on the breath.
And then again: How would it feel if I left? And once more, notice the way your body answers.
Don’t be put off it it all feels a bit much at the beginning. If it’s hard to gage an answer, or if your mind just chatters away the whole time, that’s ok, it’s a practice. Just like everything :)
But the more often you tune in to that side of you, the more your intuition will be able to be heard.
I’d love to hear how you go with this below in the comments. And I’d love to hear if you have any other practices you use to tune in to your intuitive side?