Isn't the energy of a new year exciting?
It's as though, as a collective, we decide to rise up and declare a desire for a brighter life.
If your social media feed looks anything like mine, then you've probably been inundated with how you can make sure this is your best year yet. With resolutions and goals and intentions and all of that juicy stuff which I love so much.
Which is of course beautiful and inspiring (if sometimes, kinda overwhelming!).
I wanted to pop in today to ask you to consider something a little different.
What do you need to let go of to move forward to live your brightest life?
Have you stopped to consider the weights you are carrying around? No, not the couple of Christmas kilo's (which probably look great on you by the way).
I mean, the resentments, the guilt, the sadness and anger that we are carrying around.
Let's reflect for a moment over the last year. Is there something you are carrying with you that is bringing you down? Is there a heaviness to a memory, a person, an experience that has stayed with you?
If you have had enough of holding on to these stories, then perhaps, my friend, it's time to let go and forgive.
Release those darker feelings, and create the S P A C E for some fresh, new luminous ones.
The ever-wise Wayne Dyer speaks of forgiveness as a snake bite - he says what kills you isn't the bite itself, it's the venom. Therefore, metaphysically, after you are hurt or betrayed, it's not the event that (figuratively) kills you, but the anger, the hate and the un-forgiveness that comes along with it.
There have been two major incidents in my life that have called for all-in, full-on forgiveness. And, lemme tell you, it wasn't easy.
Especially the first time. Because, understandably, I was angry and hurt. And I believed that forgiveness meant validating what happened. Being ok with the actions that caused the pain.
But here's the thing:
Forgiveness and letting go have nothing to do with the person who hurt you.
It has nothing to do with the act that plays over and over in your mind.
In no way does it mean you have to become besties with the person in question (unless it's yourself, then - yeah you do!).
During my first true experience of forgiveness, in a moment of revelation (in the shower of course, because all good revelation’s happen in the shower right!), I realised I didn't want to carry that bitterness around with me.
I wanted to step into situations-to-be with a clear heart and an openness to trust.
And the only way to release that heaviness on my shoulders and in my heart was to forgive and let go.
So I began the journey. For me that looked like:
::: Writing a letter, expressing my darkest thoughts, opinions and beliefs and burning it. A real releasing ritual.
::: Making notes about the woman I wanted to be from here on out (loving, trusting, open etc).
::: Interrupting the spiteful thoughts and replacing them with "I forgive you" (this takes practice!).
And over time, the heaviness lifted.
It took a little while, sure, but the second time I needed to forgive (different person, different situation) it was so much easier. It was as if my mind had been trained in the art of forgiveness and the whole experience was expedited.
Forgiveness is all about Y O U.
It's lightening your load, easing your burdens.
Allowing you to move forward in your life with love, not fear.
Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.
- Mark Twain
In the spirit of a new year, who can you begin to to forgive today?
Perhaps it's someone else.
Perhaps it's yourself.
You are more than worthy.
Wishing you a light-filled start to this year.